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Spirit Of Love~ 2006
Director – Charles Inojie
Producer – Sylvester Obadigie
Starring:
Rita Dominic - Udoka
Pat Attah (I forget his name)
MonaLisa Chinda – Anastasia
Bruno Iwuoha – Pat’s Dad
Maureen Ihua
Stella Ikwuegbe
Themes:
Love
Village Life
Tradition
Gender Roles
My Rating – 40%
I watched Spirit of Love today and I was fuming.
I was meant to be writing a review of an utterly atrocious movie, when I watched ANOTHER utterly atrocious movie. Well, I just can’t hold it in anymore, and I hope Nolly will be kind enough to put this up instead of the movie review. Whether you like it or not, movies are not just entertainment.They represent imaginations come to life, artistry and the ideals of society. Most importantly movies teach us how to be men and women and are a helpful tool for navigating our place in society. SO movies are important. They are more than just “if you don’t like it don’t watch it, it’s just a movie.” Movies remain with us. That is why we complain about pornography and idiocy – it just won’t stay with the person who watches it, its consequences will reverberate in the society at large.
So the silly parts of movies (like the whole princess Tyra thing) are fun, but they always have a moral. We learn that what goes around comes around, that social class doesn’t matter (as if), that love is supreme. Fair enough. NOW MY PROBLEM:
Here’s the storyline. Boy goes to the UK to study. His parents go and visit him and ask him if he wants to marry the daughter of his mom’s childhood friend. Boy says yes because he knows the girl, but he says yes to get the parents off his back. His parents, though, are dead serious and go ahead to treat the girl as their daughter in law. Girl wants to marry boy, so she starts going and cooking at her ‘in-laws’ place, rejecting suitors, and basically parading around like she’s already married (which is normal - you’ve been promised). Well boy comes back, doesn’t want to marry girl because he has a girlfriend abroad. Boy basically disgraces girl, telling his parents he doesn’t want to marry her. Parents are more worried about being shamed in the community, so they harangue boy to marry girl and refuse any abroad daughter in law. Boy moves out as a result of this trouble. Boy’s parents bring girl from the village to live with boy by force. Boy yells at girl, tells her he doesn’t want to marry her, and treats her horribly. Idiot girl is too worried about being shamed that she refuses to go back to the village…. Fast forward to when abroad girlfriend comes back to Naija – she is the rudest, horriblest persone ever – oh and she smokes. Here is where I get FURIOUS!
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Are you kidding me? How many Ghanaians and Nigerians live abroad? How many of us do not retain values of respect and dignity. Are we all rude and disrespectful? Do you seriously think Ghanaian or Nigerian parents will raise idiot kids in any country? HELLO?! And please, I’ve met children who were raised here with Gh and Naija parents and they are even better behaved than those of us who were raised in the ‘motherland’. So that is insult number one. Besides – which self-respecting Nigerian or Ghanaian man would marry such a woman? We all know that generally, men raised in our countries are raised to think they are kings – their word is law. Which one of them would get with who doesn’t treat him like so? Exactly.
LET ME ASK YOU? WHY DO OUR MOVIES CONSTANTLY TEACH US THAT WOMEN ARE NOTHING BUT DOORMATS FOR MEN?! Rita Dominic’s character made HER WHOLE LIFE out of a fantasy man! Village girl – don’t go to university because boyfriend will come and marry me and take me to England. Fine, no school, there’re so many other things to do. She won’t get into business (even petty trading to help her mother supplement their small income) or make something of her life while she waits. No, she spends the days running errands and cooking for her so-called in-laws. Are you kidding me? Is that all women are supposed to do? Cook and clean for your in-laws and husband? No dreams? No hopes? NO GOALS? This girl did NOTHING but cook and clean for this idiot and his family.
PLEASE TELL ME? Women are supposed to be doormats? This girl let her boyfriend/husband/whatever he was talk to her anyway anyhow. Why the hell should you stay somewhere where you are CLEARLY not wanted and are badly treated? Why should you stay pining for a man who loves another? But of course, how could she leave – he was her whole life. Why should a movie paint this scenario as acceptable just because in the end he’ll realize what he has and come back to you? Why is this kind of thinking acceptable?
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A final thought that struck me when the movie ended. So what if that girl Pat Atta’s character met in the UK was the sweetest, most loving girl ever? What will Udoka have done? I refuse to watch the part two, but I know how it will end. Presumably this idiot boy will come to his senses and ask Udoka for forgiveness? Please, tell me – what kind of an ending is that? This girl’s life will be put on hold until the boy DECIDES he wants her. Oh, and why does he want her? Because she cooks and cleans, doesn’t talk back until she’s spoken to, and will cater to every single whim of his, and will agree with everything he says (abi that is how our society raised us to be women and raised men to expect that of their women). Note – he won’t come back because he loves her, because he values her mind and her opinions, or because he has seen her as she is. He will come back because she is a DOORMAT! That is not to say quiet passive people are doormats, but Udoka fits our society’s idea of a perfect woman – ie doormat!
Let me ask another question – so what if Udoka could cook and clean with the best of them but she had a quick temper and was opinionated and always spoke her own mind? Will she no longer be the epitome of a good woman? Idiocy.
It’s ridiculous. I see this storyline in so many movies about love. Stay with your husband because you love him, even though he’s slept with tens of women and could probably give you an std, put up with insane abuse because you love him and love conquers all, spend your life waiting for an idiot to come to his senses and realize that you are the ONLY one for him (hah!). Plus the women are also always just dull, lifeless, colorless. No opinion. Always quiet. Always gentle. Always good cooks. Are all Ghanaian and Nigerian women like that? Is that the kind of wife men want? Wife or slave? It’s high time we stopped that idiocy.
When will there be a movie about a woman who is rejected, soldiers on through the pain and finds love? When will there be a movie about a girl who refuses to wait for her husband to come and marry her but instead goes to school? When will there be a movie about a girl who can’t go to school, so runs a small business in her village? When will there be a movie about a woman who is strong enough to leave that profligate husband and continue with her life (and before you jump on me, God himself gives you the right to leave if your husband cheats with just ONE woman – so how much more tens of hundreds of women?) Love doesn’t conquer all. Love is from God, and God doesn’t deal with idiocy, so love won’t conquer foolishness. This tomfoolery needs to stop.
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In short I would not recommend this movie. I was very disappointed. Knowing what I do now about the importance of media, I don’t just watch movies now; I have to critique them properly. And I don’t just believe love conquers all. This movie pissed me off because it doesn’t give women dignity. And it basically tells you that a man can do whatever foolishness he wants, and a woman will still be there when he decides to come to his senses. My rant is over. Thanks to Nolly for posting, and thanks for taking the time to read.





I bought a movie called "Chase" about five months ago and it is still sitting on top of my computer desk half unwatched. Can anyone tell me if it is worth finish watching it? I started to watch it and the first 10 minutes were people running shooting and destroying everything on their way for no good reason. Then they moved to other scenes where people were talking nonsense I got confused and turned off and stopped watching it.
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